71 REASONS NOT TO TALK TO GUYS

1.

It’s assur (the source is in the Igros Moshe, and somewhere else)

2.

Most parents don’t let, and if they find out they’ll kill you, you’ll lose all your privileges, it takes years to build up trust and a only a second of doubt to lose it

3.

You risk getting caught by, and being thrown out of, your school

4.

You lose interest in your friends who will start to feel neglected, and hate you

5.

You ruin your reputation. No one wants a bad one, and once your stuck with it, it’s hard to get rid of it

6.

You WILL NOT stay shomer negiyah, which is also assur

7.

The guy is 100% talking bad about you to his friends in one way or another

8.

All a guy wants at this age is play-and he’ll use you for that

9.

Every boy is a liar, a pervert, a jerk, and you will eventually find this out

10.

A guy will say anything-just to get you in bed

11.

They occupy your whole mind-you’ll be thinking about them 24/7

12.

You WILL regret anything you do with him

13.

IF you have the reputation for talking to boys, your friends will get the same one, why would you want to do that to them?

14.

At this age you say that you want a guy like this, etc..When you get older your priorities will change and you will have hard time by shidduchim

15.

Besides for just the obvious, you do so many other aveiros cuz of this-you lie-you get mad.

16.

Boys give you wayyyy too much confidence, and you get self centered

17.

You trick yourself into thinking you love him, but really it’s just artificial

18.

Imagine kissing your husband, and thinking ‘The last time i was doing this it was with XYZ’

19.

You’re always thinking about when he’s gonna call, you can’t think about anything else

20.

You start slacking off in school

21.

The later you stop, the worse off you are

22.

You think he’s helping you, but he’s only bringing you down

23.

You try to justify your talking to him, but you end up looking stupid.

24.

They make you think its cool-its sooo not-who respects you for talking to boys??

25.

You start dressing to impress them, and you think you look so hot and everything, but meanwhile you’re like the skank of the town

26.

A guy will probably be oiver the worst aveiros because of you and I’m sure we get part of it

27.

You’ll drag your friends down to lower levels

28.

You regret that he could be such a great guy if not for you

29.

You’re going to cause him to suffer a lot–why do you wanna do that to him? And later on when he regrets it, he’ll hate you for it

30.

You will always be living with a guilty conscience

31.

You might set boundaries for yourself, but you’re gonna slowly pass each one of them

32.

You become desensitized to all the shmutz out there

33.

You pass a certain naiveté you’ll never get back to

34.

YOU CAN NEVER NEVER NEVER TRUST A BOY

35.

You might start out talking to one but you’ll end up talking to many–like his friends

36

When you stop, you’ll suffer so much, you’ll feel like you’re dead and you’ll wish you’d never known him!

37.

You will probably end up at some point on bad terms, or hating each other

38.

You start talking, thinking and acting like a guy

39.

You can never just chill out, you always wanna be with him, and think about him, and everything

40.

Think about how mean the guys are-if they call when we’re doing something we stop and talk to them, but when we call, we’re like the last on their list

41.

You can’t be a complete girl around guys-they never understand

42.

You become dependent on them, when really they are the last thing you need.

43.

Think about it-in 3 or 4 years you’re going to get married and be tied to someone forever-enjoy the free time you have now-have fun with your friends-be a girl

44.

Think about how much more fun you have when you’re with friend all hyper and everything, than when you’re just sitting with him by a movie

45.

If you care about him enough, you wouldn’t do this to him

46.

If he cares about you enough, he wouldn’t do this to you

47.

You lose purity that you can never get back

48.

Your friends help you grow and are always there for you, all a guy can do for you is make you feel pretty, but its fake.

49.

Whatever you do, your kids are going to do, it always ends up like that, would you want your kids doing what you’re doing?

50.

They have the biggest influence over you, and it can get risky

51.

You probably deserve a much more amazing guy than him

52.

Think about the schar you’ll get for not talking to him

53.

Stop pretending you want it so much, how good can it be if there are so many people out there willing to do anything to stop you

54.

Do you want to have to compare the kiss of the one you truly love to the one who pretended to respect you just so he could get to french you?

55.

If you do this till 12th grade, chances are you’ll never stop, and you can get married to the wrong guy and have an awful marriage

56.

If he is your bashert he will come back to you

57.

Girls are stupid. We know this. We know guys use us and how gross they are but we ignore it until they do something to us, then we get all hysterical, don’t be stupid

58.

You might think it’s ok to do what you do, but look at it from the eyes of a stranger–do you really think that’s appropriate?

59.

Look at all the girls who do and don’t-compare and contrast

60.

After all you do for them, all they do is call you a zoooooyyyynah

61.

Even though you think he loves you and you love him, it’s just your hormones, they’re all wacked up

62.

They are not even ashamed of themselves for all they do

63.

They have no life all they do is look at ———-uummm-pritzus-all day long.

64.

They know that we know all this and still try to pretend they aren’t like that

65.

Why do you think so many people wish they could change their past??

66.

YOU ARE NOT MARRYING HIM

67.

Somehow no matter who does the dumping the girl always ends up being hurt

68.

Remember, while you think it’s fun and enjoyable to think about him and all the fun you shared, you just keep prolonging your obsession which, no matter how fun it may be in the middle of your relationship, when you break up, it’ll completely take over your mind and destroy you

69.

Hirhurim are also an aveirah(lo sassur acharei levavchem veacharei eineichem)

70.

When your zivug is made in shamayim 40 days before you are born, you fit together like 2 peices of a puzzle. They click right into place. but for every immoral relationship you have(not for the sake of marriage) you break off pieces from the puzzle, so later on when you get to your zivug, the pieces won’t fit exactly, they’ll have a crack here and there or a dent–it’s pretty freaky, no????

71.

Remember, a guy who kisses you all the time is not the one who cares about you, the one who stops is the real tzadik and the one who really cares for you (or himself)